(2) Winners & Losers

For many years i felt i was a 'Loser' and wanted to be a 'Winner', but i have learned
something over the years and am going to share it with you. I don't want you to be a
'Winner' or a 'Loser'. Yes you read that right !! I want you to abandon altogether that way of thinking, i don't want you to think it about yourself or anyone else. Making money from Forex requires very much that you have a very level mind or at very least very level while you are working on the Forex, and the best way to do that is to get your head as clear as you can generally as soon as you can. Stop all this - 'I give it 110%'. You are just setting yourself up for a fall. I want you to change your perspective altogether. This is how i want you to look at things: In life we all get dealt if you like a set of cards, good looks, short, tall, good at maths, quiet, an extra finger or toe, birthmark, quick temper, find it difficult to mix and make friends, witty, etc, etc. We have to learn to make the best of what we get and what comes our way. We have all had both good things and bad things happen to us, true we can all look at another and see they got better than us and equally there is always those worse off than us too. But 'Winners' and 'Losers' are very similar, they have the same bad habit. Life is like a game of cards and we all have the cards we have been dealt, but the problem for 'Winners' and 'Losers' is they cant help but show us their hand! True a 'Winner' may seem to have got quite a lot of good cards which they cant wait to tell you about, but when you look at them carefully you see that they may have the odd good card but otherwise they are just as much like anyone else, they often are unrealistically optimistic about themselves and what they have to offer, they can do well but have to keep up the bluff and get very angry when you point out any problems. 'Losers' are basically the same, sure they have got a few bad cards, but they dwell on them, it would not matter if they won the lottery they still would find fault and be unhappy. So what am i saying to you? I want you to try and accept yourself as you are and be a bit realistic about what can be achieved, don't envy the 'Winners' they only seem happy on the surface they really do need to work 110% of the time to maintain their 'Winner' status both in others eyes and their own, and the main way they do this is by being unpleasant and picking on vunerable people and pointing out they are 'Losers'. Do not allow yourself to get upset by them, don't get caught up in this behaviour. If you meet someone who thinks of themselves as 'Losers', try being kind to them, point out they have some good things in themselves and their lives and there are plenty worse off than them, be gentle, but don't be surprised if they get angry because you refuse to go along their idea of themselves as 'Losers'. I must here make a confession, because i once was one of those rather insecure 'Winners' terrified that others may see through me and figure out that in fact i had achieved very little in life and using the easy diversion of picking on others and saying they were 'Losers'. I am not proud of this now, it is just the way i was. What i want you to do is make a very clear effort not to think in this way, if others want to classify people in this way let them, just don't go along with it and don't think about yourself as a 'Winner' or a 'Loser', you are just you and the advantage you have is that in the game of life you are no longer going to show all your cards to everyone else. Cultivate an air of mystery about yourself, say as little as possible about yourself, you will find it difficult to avoid the 'Winners' and 'Losers' but you can refuse to rise to their bait, let them think what they like of you. And what you may think has all this got to do with Forex ? ! Well when you play the Forex, you will have trades that win and trades that lose, you must accept this. You do not have the luxury of thinking that winning trades are good and losing trades are bad. You must get into the mental habit of accepting there will be losing trades and you must learn to recognise them and cut your losses as soon as you can, equally there will be winning trades and you must learn not to be too greedy. So getting the right mental attitudes to do this is very important, because when you play you must focus, so getting rid of a bad way of thinking is important. I found that giving up this way of thinking very difficult but as soon as i did i found that equally i was able to trade much better.